Are you where you want to be?

One of the comments on my storm cleanup post got me to thinking about how many people aren’t where they want to be in a physical sense, and a post yesterday at Aasman’s site expanded that same question to the psychological place.

I regularly re-evaluate where I am in both senses. It’s not usually a really detailed assessment, more an “am I content?” question that opens the possibility of change. I’ve made some extreme changes over the years, sometimes not voluntarily, but I think I’ve now got it very close to being right. I still at times work too hard at things I don’t particularly enjoy, but that’s way down from what it was even 3 years ago. During our recent trip, we encountered many people, particularly in Florida, who clearly hate their jobs – thankfully we met more who enjoyed what they were doing.

Would I move from the Yukon? It’s always a possibility, but neither of us have seen a place that would get us to move when all things are considered. The far north of New Zealand is the closest we’ve come so far, and that may not be totally off the table yet. The photo at the bottom shows Pakiri Beach, probably the place in New Zealand that could get me packing.

Part of getting older is apparently looking back at the things you’ve done and assessing them. I do that more and more in recent years, and unfortunately am embarassed by some of the things I’ve done. Occasionally something triggers the old me to return for a sentence or two, but he’s mostly just a memory. Those triggers always involve people who don’t give a damn about other people, who think that their needs are the only thing worth considering as they go through their lives.

Some people I know aren’t where they want to be, but have a hundred excuses for why they’re stuck where they are. I don’t usually buy it, though – the world has nearly-infinite options, and most of us have the ability to choose which path to take.

I hope that you are where you belong, or at least are on the path to that place. 🙂


Are you where you want to be? — 7 Comments

  1. We moved in 1988 from The Netherlands to the Top of the South,and we think this is the best thing we ever did.


  2. Your post made me thinking about dreams and fullfilling them.
    From the age of 7 until now – when I am fully aware of adulthood’s pleasures and tricks – I am dreaming about moving to Canada. Having my permanent residence card almost in my pocket, I have to give up due to one’s fear and pure malice.
    I suddenly realize that I have to stay where I don’t want to. I have to stop planning, preparing for the Big Change. In my case it’s not the question of not doing anything but being dependent. Even though , I’ll never stop to dream and one day I’ll land in Canada again to make my person trully happy cause that’s the only way to consider myself as a person, not an object.

    Having written that I want you to think about your choices. It’s far more convenient to dream when nobody crashes your dreams.

  3. Just catching up on Explore North. Catherine & Kitt (dghtr. & s-in-law) own a plot of land on the hill looking out over Pakiri – just something to tuck away in your mind 🙂 Did you meet the Haddons and ride their horses on the beach?? Cath & Kitt were married at Pakiri & held their wedding reception in a marquee atop the dunes. Everyone had a wonderful time. So keep that germ of an idea simmering! I’ll have to send you some photos.

    Blessings and Best Wishes for Christmas and the New Year from sunny NZ.

  4. Interesting topic of conversation and very thought provoking. I know that I am where I want to be, with whom I want to be with, doing what I love to do. It took me many years to find this peace of mind and serenity. Unless you are content with where you are, you will never find that peace of mind. If you are constantly looking for it, you won’t recognize that it may just be where you are at the present time. Enjoy where you are, who you are with and you may find that this is what you have been dreaming about all the time. It took a major leap of faith on my part to get here, but I’m here, and here I’ll stay.

    Life is good.